Bea, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I woke up this morning somewhere in the middle on the birthday wishes. It's unfortunate that our D was just finalized and xh chose to be a jerk knowing how difficult that was for me. I keep seeing the smirk on his face.
On the other hand, I can imagine that occasions like this are painful without his mom. Maybe he blocks it out, but I remember how she used to call him early in the morning on his birthday. She also sent very silly cards which he didn't always appreciate, but probably misses now.
I've opted to privately say a prayer for him and send him good thoughts by way of the universe. He needs to sit with the communication boundaries that I just set and contact me if and when he can respect me. Also, my feelings are still too raw over the D. I'm good with this decision.
