"I Love you but love her too"....WHAT?

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Linda, my h saw ow's h's threat as a challenge and just turned up his pursuit of ow. The standard, "no one's going to tell me what to do". Teenage behavior for sure. It seemed to me that it almost became a game, a very sick game to him. He was and still is a very competitive person and needs to "win". It's more out of control now and that competitive nature has spilled over into his personal life. So now that he's "won" he will more than likely get bored with her. He's a Gemini and they change their mind more often than they change their socks! Thank God my birthday missed the Gemini sign by a few days. Anyway, I did worry that the ow's h was going to come here and find him and do some real harm to him. The times that he went to visit her I had visions of a knock down drag out fight happening and someone getting hurt.

The fact that the MLCers around the country and around the world all have the same script makes this a lot easier to deal with. You're right, coming here has been a Godsend for a lot of us. I really meant it when I suggested that we start a separate thread on the things they say. I crack up every time I read TVS's thread. She, uRw, nero, you, T2 and all of the others that post over there have helped brighten my rough days.

Yeah, just another WTF MLC statement by a man confused and in a fog. He moves, ow comes to visit/live here and I'm not second? Maybe I should take him up on the offer to hang out. He seems to want a needy, clingy, obnoxious ow to take care of. Maybe I could learn a few tricks from her if I hang out with them. Actually, wouldn't it be fun to be a fly on the wall when our h's and ow have a conversation? I've always wondered if they are totally different or if they let some of the mlc show through with the op. They don't seem to be in control of their behavior with us so why would it be different with the op?

Keep detaching Linda, it's the way to keep your sanity. Laugh (to yourself) when your h says or does the unthinkable. Snap the rubber band that you should be wearing on your wrist to remind yourself that you have no control over and can't change his behavior! LOL As the seasoned sages here say, "Believe none of what they say and half of what they do."

Guess I should try to go back to bed and get some sleep now. Having a little trouble tonight for some reason.