Hi, Hopeful. Reading your update makes me sad. It really isn't supposed to be this way, but I know you already know that. You are a very brave, strong woman for putting as much effort into it as you do, and for accepting some of the attitude/actions you get from your H. I'm pretty sure I would have thrown in the towel a long time ago and never looked back. I hope you're rewarded for your efforts in the long run.
Just curious, why would you want him to go to your event with you? Do you think it's even possible for him to be supportive?