Hi RLA! I'm sorry I missed your updates! I wish they were better for you.
I'm always at a loss in situations like yours. It sounds like your H wants to be M'd, but then doesn't act like it, in spite of the OM/bomb and other things that should wake people up. This would be especially frustrating for me knowing he was going to counseling to address the issues, thinking the counselors should be giving him the tools.
I hope you're able to deal well with it. I can imagine it would be very taxing on your emotional state. Don't forget to take care of yourself, too, not just your M.
