Please give yourself time to adjust to this new revelation from your H.
You have a history of letting a bump in the road send you into a panic, then you approach H, then that bump turns into a mountain.
I really hope for your sake you break that pattern NOW.
Just because your H verbalized his thoughts that doesn't guarantee he'll act on them. Haven't you "thought" about leaving? I know I have!
While saying this to your kids, especially without talking to you first was horrible, don't think it means too much. Even if he moves out, that doesn't "mean" anything. Your H's brain is bouncing like a ping pong ball right now.
He may have to live with ow, without you, without the boys, to really understand what he's losing.
You have much more important things to worry about. Like
YOU
YOUR BOYS
and the $ mess your H has made
Take care sweetie.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
