MMSLP approach works best when your W works with you on it. The problem is that if that's not "you" then chances are you won't be able to keep it up and the erratic changes in your behavior will just confuse your wife. If you could just will yourself to be super confident and attractive you already would have. Don't torture yourself with that, be yourself. If you're the best man you can be and that's not good enough for her, then playing MMSLP games isn't going to help. The "caveman theory" his stuff is based on has also proven to be myth. Early humans didn't practice monogamy, they practiced group marriage and everyone pitched in to do everything because that was the most efficient way to survive.

If you're working together on your marriage you have the right to expect to have sex. You should discuss this with her and agree on some frequency you will maintain. That will relieve your anxiety and relieve pressure on any given night if it doesn't happen. If she won't work with you on that, then you're not really piecing you are still DB'ing.

The difference is that piecing implies you are both committed to making your marriage work, which means you both fear losing it if you don't do the work.

Does she fear losing you right now?

How about that summary?

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015