Crimson.....Are we broken or just bent?

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I guess that is a very fair question, bug.

I don't think that it is about "predictability" or "knowing the answers and outcomes". Rather, for me I guess it is just about understanding....or trying to understand elements that are whirling around in my situation.

Unless how MLC has been described here has been voided out as total bs, it is helpful on some level to have a framework (though not patently universal) that provides SOME kind of insight as to what may be in motion with regard to the dynamic between LBS and WAS.

It is not a better place to be, but for pragmatics like myself (curse, not a blessing) its just a different lens to look through. I would be the first to tell anyone that arrives here that there is no such thing as "if/thens" in the life of a LBS. I've accepted that. There is just too much going on to have assurances now.
However, having a simple framework (that may or may not apply) helps sometimes. And, admittedly, sometimes it can provide a ray of hope that MAYBE things will be back on track one day.....as you can see examples of how real people have made their way through it and somehow come through the other side with their families in one piece.

Like stories and experiences shared in DB, it is helpful to look at a pool of common experiences, relate it to where you are, and say "yeah, I think that may be what is going on with me". Not that there is a template, but relatable ideas, experiences, thoughts, and even language. And, as I see it, it all ties back to the best friends/worst enemies of a LBSs - hope and time.

I suspect that I will get nailed for this^^^^ - maybe deservedly so. Just trying to honestly answer the question.
Crimson

I didn't ask so I could "nail" you, I was just curious. Lots of people jump on that and to me MLC seems like just untreated depression. Now I can't diagnose but it sure sounds the same and yes, sometimes people do recover from depression without outside help, depending on the causes.

So your W might "snap out of it" or not. But that doesn't mean you can't GAL and move forward in the meantime.

You still have your wagon hitched to her star.