At least once he moves out, it won't be as upsetting for you to see him on a daily basis! Once he moves in with the OW, he'll be waking up next to her without makeup on and her hair a mess! He will start to see the other side of her, it won't all be sweetness and light! He'll get fed up of her before long and if you can be the best that you can be then he may change his mind and want to come home. I think it was very unfair of him to tell the boys he's moving out and not tell you first! Are the boys very upset about this or are they quite pleased that the arguments and the rowing will stop? I know when my parents split up, they were always arguing and the day that mum told me she was moving out was quite a relief for me. Kids don't understand properly though and my dad told me later that I never saw him crying on the kitchen floor. I blamed myself for my parents splitting up, I was a bit of a wild child as a teenager! Make sure you tell your boys that they mustn't blame themselves for you two splitting up, I've told my son this and he says he doesn't, lol. If I was you, I'd pack his bag for him and tell him that you don't want to be waiting around wondering whether or not today is the day! The sooner he moves out, the sooner you can GAL He may be so shocked at this revelation that you have just made, he may hesitate before moving out. He'll probably be thinking what have I done, but not whilst he's infatuated with this OW. Remember, it's only an infatuation at the moment, He's lived with you for 13 years and it's a rebound relationship that he's jumping into. I don't want to give you too much hope, but I know this from experience. When my H left me the first time for an OW, he came back after 8 months. He was yoyoing backwards and forwards between those months which left me very unsettled. If I could change one thing, I would make sure that he only comes back if he really wants to and doesn't leave again! My 180 is working! H has called me 2 days in a row When I've got nothing to do I go into town with my son and we'll go to the market for lunch. I often see people down town that I know and I can spend a whole afternoon down there One thing I did was to join a carnival committee. The carnival is on Saturday and I've been busy with meetings and carnival stuff. I've met lots of people through the meetings and some new friends as well I even know someone who does gardening and she's going to pop over next week to let me know when she can come and do my garden Maybe there's a local committee that you can join to keep yourself busy. I can normally take my son along as well or you could get your MIL to sit for you She will see you getting on with your life and will be reporting back to your H Wishing you all the best
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
He may be so shocked at this revelation that you have just made, he may hesitate before moving out. He'll probably be thinking what have I done, but not whilst he's infatuated with this OW. Remember, it's only an infatuation at the moment, He's lived with you for 13 years and it's a rebound relationship that he's jumping into.
