I understand why you feel an A is a deal breaker. I always thought it was for me, too...until I had one. I was the person who judged others who had A's and just KNEW I wouldn't tolerate it myself.
I just read both of your threads...hang in there, learn to detach and have some patience. I know this is really tough, worse than anything you can imagine. Now imagine that, perhaps, your wife felt like that for 20 years of your M while her needs went unmet because you were always working. Hindsight is 20/20. You did what you thought was right. I am not saying this is all your fault, it takes two. I am saying that she most likely endured all she could those years of loneliness to get to this point, and now, a few months in you are ready to call it quits. Give it the 20 years it took her to call it quits, you'll be happy again by then, one way or the other! Work on yourself, try to understand how she got to this point, and be patient. She probably doesn't know what she wants right now.
Hang tough
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
