The Show Must Go On

[BrightFuture]

Wonka, thanks for stopping by. I’ve got ILBNILWY one year ago on the phone. H was working in another state at that time. His work is seasonal and he works in this state for a few months until it gets cold there. During the winter months he was leaving in our vacation home in Mexico. He went back to work in the middle of May and probably will not come back until November or December. He wants to leave and retire in our vacation home. It was his idea that I will retain the house and he will have the vacation home. I recently refinanced the house on my name and he gave me the release (claim deed form), so I own the house right now. But we are still jointly own the vacation home, and it seems that he doesn’t mind me being there while he is out. It seems that he is actually happy I go there and bring my family and friends. When he works in another state, he stays in his camper, or rents a room in friend’s house, or stays at the hotels. So, right now he doesn’t have a home in the states. His mail still comes to now my house and he asked me to forward some of it to him periodically. He asked me if he could park his car at the house and I agreed.

As for the business, it is just to maintain the self-employed status. We don’t have any employees. We both work on contract basis. So, when I have a contract, the money is paid to the business and then I pay myself a salary. When I don’t have work, there is no money coming to the business. Same for him.


Linda, thanks for your support. I know that I should look at the increased contact from H as a positive sign. I like Wonka’s idea that his politeness and coldness is to convince himself that there are no feelings. I do hope that he still has feelings for me. Actually, I do believe that he has the loving feelings, I just hope that romantic feelings for me will return as well.

I’m trying to adjust to this level of contact, so I don’t feel nervous when he calls. I will still keep all interaction about business, unless he will show an interest in talking to me about other things. I know that I need to be patient and take one day at a time.