I agree soo much, don't let him change anything about your plans or how you live. I was angry when I read he changes your plans, you change your plans and act different, don't do that!
Pick him up if you have to at the airport, but that should be the extent of him interrupting your life. You owe him nothing! How would he even come towards you an inch if your always available?
Don't cook, eat out if you can or eat w a friend or mom, at least enough for him to see change. DO NOT CLEAN UP ANYTHING....leave his mess, dishes, EVERYTHING! They do find a way to do it themselves! Mine does! And he works 70 hrs a week at times, and he found time to do his own Sh!t. Yours is retired!
Take a strong stand for your self and plan on doing the opposite of what he's expecting! If your not sure, come here and ask us, there are plenty of us who will tell you how to let him go! You don't post when he's there! Don't change, if he asks say I belong to a garden club, and say nothing more!
Put a password on your computer! you disappear from us right when we could be there for you!
He's too complacent, be mysterious, you owe him nothing! Be light, quiet, quick but polite, gone at times, return happy to make yourself a cup of coffee and do something alone, throw him a HI as you breeze by! Don't wait for an answer!
I do all this and now he's doing the dishes, sweeping, asking me to watch tv, asking me if I'm ok, I don't even say by when I leave, or say were I've been. Now he's having to ask me! He doesn't come back to fortify his leaving you, he's tied to you some how, make him earn it!
Nero, you put my friend down too much, don't say stuff like he doesn't like what he finds. He's a guy....who keeps coming back...he likes something...guys aren't that methodical...it's simple....he keeps coming back!
Now don't make me have to drive to NJ and show you a mirror to prove to you what we're all saying here, your a great women, I'm sure your beutiful, now make it harder for him...change up your game!
Go buy a sundress, get your toes done, put up that red hair, red hair...are you kidding me, that's every man dream! Put on some dangeling earrings, go to kohl's, they have cute stuff, not stuffy like the more expensive places.
Work it! My mom is 63, strawberry blond, freckles galore, short,130 lbs, and she works it in white shorts, sunglasses, and confidence. Nothing like me, I got the Latina look from my dad, mixed race here, tho of course I didn't get the beutiful tan, I'm a ghost w dark hair.
You've been at this a long time, change it up, go for what's best for you, not how he will react! Don't fear loosing him all together, he smells that!
I wish you the best of luck, really stop insulting yourself, you probably so off base and hurting for nothing!
Tell me what you think! Tell me what YOU think and what YOU want!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
