I was looking for advice on how to respond to the email. After talking to DB coach, I'm really going dark right now. Even staying away from FB, because all I can do is look and see how she took her "married to..." status off and stuff.
Right this very second, all I can say is I'm trying to learn better ways to respond to very large problems besides being angry, depressed, etc. This will be an ongoing effort on my part. I can only show her any changes if there is future contact. Time is my friend here, and I'm just trying to avoid rushing into D and also hoping that the EA implodes or doesn't go to PA at least.
