Wow NLT, how did your H respond when OW's H told him to keep away from his wife??? Women can be catty and nasty, but men punch each other out over stuff like that! I love your description of her as "a living, breathing, conniving, gold digging symptom" of his MLC! Too funny. It does help, doesn't it, to be able to come here and realize that our spouses are doing and saying the exact same thing as hundreds of other men and women? Some of their shenanigans crack me up, and help me to see that my own H is not really abnormal. Well, not when compared to other MLCers, anyway. He's pretty nutz compared to normal people!
But on the other hand, how strange that all of these MLCers do not know each other at all, live in different parts of the world, are different ages and have completely different life situations, yet use the exact same words and do the exact same actions. It's quite a phenomenon!
Proof of temporary insanity: "He told me that if I was ever afraid to call and he'd come right over. He also said that he "wasn't putting me second" and repeated that "if I needed ANYTHING or just wanted to come over and hang out that I was welcome anytime." What is he thinking? He's NOT! I have to assume that the ow is still there. The look on my face must have been one of confusion. Hope he didn't notice. He stayed for over an hour. When he got up to leave he kissed me and gave me a hug and off he went!"
He's not putting you second? How does that work -- he moved out. You're welcome to come and hang out anytime? The OW would love that! I'm glad he gave you a kiss and hug. Really the whole thing is so confusing, but I can see that he wants to stay connected to you. I know he'll figure it out, NLT. Keeping DBing!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
