New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[Hadlee58]

Update 11/07/2013.
Just a quick update, my wife and i have been getting on really well this last week, we went out on a night out together on saturday which was great fun and on monday we sat down to discuss our annoyances with each other. This went really well and i kept quiet when she talked and validated well, her major annoyances were only two:
Smothering her and not giving her space (sometimes when she needs things from the shops i always jump in and offer to go for her - reality is she is saying help me with the kids i need a break too!!).
She also has felt that i havent understood her role of being a working mum and maybe took things for granted.
Both things i agreed on and she could see that i am already working well on both.
Mine were:
Feeling like i wasnt her equal, in someways like i was another child in the house and needed her approval on things.
Her feeling proud of me as her husband.
She also agreed with both and promised to work on them. All in all a great discussion i was worried it might turn into a row but it never got like that which is a bonus.

One thing we havent discussed and is troubling me is how we move forward from here to get things back to normal, we still havent had any intimacy (something i am so craving right now) other than a kiss on the check before and after work and when she goes up to bed and we end text messages with 'xx' although this can be occassional from her- i had hoped for something on saturday night but alas it wasnt to be and i didnt push it. She kind of mentioned a couple of weeks ago that maybe we should try dating again which is why i planned saturday night out for us but it doesnt seem like she has thought of anything or is offering to reciprocate. On tuesday night she was going to the gym with her girlfriend who suggested they go for wine instead she laughed this off but siad to me if she had said any other night she would have loved it - this really hurt me as i would have thought if we were really both trying to move this on she would have wanted to go with me?
Should i raise how we move forward or just see how things pan out over the next few weeks (pressure-dont pressure). I worry that giving her kisses (albeit on the cheek) and ending texts with 'xx' may be pressurising her when maybe she doesnt feel ready for this.
I guess after our initial discussions on moving on and trying to get things back on track properly i am feeling a little deflated that things are just 'hung' and we are in some kind of no mans land, i guess we are still early days and maybe my expectations are too much but after an initial flourish it has left me feeling quite down (although i am careful not to show it!!).

One other thing that is difficult is my mother has struggled to reconnect with my wife (quite blatently) which my wife has mentioned although said its her loss, i have spoken to my mother (shes just protective of her wee boy :)) and she has promised to work on it, difficult and something i could do without!!

Thanks in advance for amy support xx