Shouldistillhope, that is a very similar relationship path you have described for a lot of us. I find that I am getting more and more frustrated with my W and our situation. Five months of limbo really takes its toll on a person. Right now I cant imagine this limbo with no positive progress for one or two more years. YIKES!
This is a good and bad thing. I am finally starting to stick up for myself in a more assertive way with her. When she is disrespectful or hurtful, I dont hold in the feelings as much. I will tell her flat out that she is being rude, hurtful or disrespectful. I am tired of being her whipping boy. What this tells me though, is that my patience and tolerance is wearing extremely thin right now and that is not what my situation requires. I need to find the patience within me. I know this.
I have also read MrBond saying to someone here to "stop taking sch!t from her". I dont believe a wife can respect a husband with no self respect but finding that line between self respect and DBing is sometimes elusive to me.
Thanks shoulistillhope for checking in on me. And thanks to all of you who have helped me this far.
Also, Anotherstander. If you read this, I wanted to say that I am sorry that July has been a rough month for you regarding you S finding out she has cancer and you finding out about OM. As always, you are all in my prayers everyday.
I hope we all find the strength and patience to get through our individual crisis' with a positive outcome.
