Not confused...moving towards acceptance

[wishing, hoping]

(((BRNR)))

I could have written those words exactly, except my kids are not allowed around OW...yet.

OW still tries to wrap her claws around my kids (well, my daughter anyway) by buying her stupid stuff and trying to wheedle her. Last time the kids stayed at her place (she wasn't there) they came back and told me all about her house and her nail polish and her nail dryer and her guinea pigs, etc. All I could do is listen and smile. It made me sick, too. I just wanted to punch OW in her fat face.

But, like you know, we all take the high road because that's who we are and that's what we do. Like you, I cannot stand the unfairness of it all. I can't stand the broken family. I hate H for what he has done to all of us.

Just know, like mine, your H is trying to get to you and break you emotionally. You need to rally and dig deep. It [censored]. It's hard, but keep your eyes on the prize. Your kids.

As for being alone on your b-day, go our with friends and do something you want. I was alone on the 4th for the second year in a row. But I kept myself busy. I feel alone a lot when it's not "my day". I hope the feeling passes.

And H won't look at me either. They are like spoiled children who are mad at mom because they can't get their way. Just document everything.

Hang in there. When your H wants something he will suddenly be nice. That's when you need to be cautious. When they are mad, they are just mad. When they are nice, they are up to something.

Hang in there,
WH