The fact that you improved after he left will have surprised him. How would you feel if after you left him he became in tip top shape, happy and independent?
If you had done the opposite of what you did you wouldn't have got in shape, you would be miserable with your life and you would have pursued him into pushing you away even more.
When I first came here. I made a few posts and then went by blindly not adjusting to the situation. My W would say that she thought I wasn't interested anymore and my actions would most likely show that. She may have wanted me to chase, beg and plead for her. If I did that after she left the marriage what sort of message would send? My sitch has been up and down and all over the place. Right now my R with W is way down but to a certain degree I am way up. I also have the backing of my supporters on here that help guide me on my journey.
As I look at my sitch right now, my W is the one with issues she needs to deal with just like your H is now. If she can't see that I have changed for the better and continue to better myself then that will be her loss. I want to stay M to my W but not a the expense of myself.
Keep posting and work on yourself.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
