Up in the air, LONG

[Demoted26]

Thanks for the response NQ, I'll have to read your sitch! Detaching [censored], especially after promising not to (getting married) & honestly really liking your spouse as a person. Or, the person they were when THEY liked US, I guess is more accurate.

After H texted me, I got to thinking. Maybe I should kind of open up. I've been pretty avoidant when it comes to R talks from either of us. One, because we aren't supposed to bring it up & two, because hearing him say he doesn't love & might be happier without me in his life kills me a little each time.
But I was thinking, maybe I need to validate, try & open him up.
I'll try that next time, as he seems to be making comments about missing home a lot lately.

I again blew it today, instead. I was getting a frozen yogurt with my daughter at H & my's usual place. We used to go weekly. It was our little "thing" for about a year. So, I got a brilliant idea, since he said he was home sick to text him, "At (yogurt place) getting our usual. Not having my partner in calorie crimes here is a bummer!! Miss you xxoo".
Yeah, probably not brilliant. Just wanted him to know I was thinking of him, missing him.
H just texted me about something else, his usual avoid anything I don't want to talk about method. I'm glad he opens up to me about his feelings, but I'm sad I can't open up about mine to him. Even on a non dramatic level.

I probably should have asked what HE was missing about home, asked if there was anything I could do to help?
Who said validation comes natural to women?! It might, just not THIS one.