Thanks all.....so am I smoking crack on the whole MLC thing?? In all fairness, I can't tell if its a possibility or if the common elements are such that I just WANT it to be a possibility just to have clarity. I don't think it is the latter - but you never know. Those six stages just seemed so "familiar".....well, the first 3 or 4 anyway.
With regard to my mother, she is one of those people who honestly feels like she can say nearly anything to anyone so long as SHE thinks it's true. With her kids, she feel as if she can say ABSOLUTELY anything she wants without regard to our sensitivities or feelings. I get the "I'm your mother, so I have to tell you...." routine.
As you may recall, not long after BD (days) she call xws dad and stepmom to see "if they knew of anything that had been going on between us". I. The process, she really said some things about XW to her dad and stepmom that were not taken well about their daughter. She really, really offended them AND hurt XW when she learned about the phone call. To this day my mother refuses to admit that anything she said was offensive and claims "I don't know what they're mad about, I didn't do anything to them!" She completely does not see now that one phone call meddled into my M and had a deep impact on my XW and her family. It's unreal - and there are moments when I think she is losing it. Since BD, she has been of very little help on terms of my family.
