I am not so sure if I am doing the right thing. I have been trying to follow DBing, but what if it's wrong? What if all I am doing is completely wrong, and I should be sharing my feelings with her more? <===== THAT is what I keep focusing on. In reality, I think DBing is the proper way to handle this, but I don't know for certain. It's just frusturating.
I can emphasize. I have the same worries. I neglected her needs during our marriage and was distant, how can doing the same be right now? Well, in my case, I no longer have a choice, but I believe that being a simpering baby would not have helped my cause. Still, I wonder, what if instead of honoring her wish for space early one, what if I had made some grand gesture instead? I believe that stuff only works in the movies. In the real world, showing up on somebody's doorstep with Peter Gabriel blaring on the boombox is only going to get the cops called on you.
