You have to let her go and worry about you and the kids. In her eyes nothing you do will be good and most likely will be twisted to make you look evil no matter what it is (lived it so saying that from experience).
F accommodating her or even talking with her anymore. It will only cause you to spin because it won't be reciprocated and likely won't change her mind.
Originally Posted By: Maritimer
No getting around the money, there's a chart...Income + 2 kids = 35% of my net income plus other expenses. Unless I go for equal custody. I never went that route due to avoiding rocking the boat. I will request 50/50 in the future. Im getting mixed opinions on this. Some say you have a better chance when there older and other say do it now or it will never happen. Depends on your lawyer.
Do you want 50/50 custody? If yes then fight for it now. Are you willing to miss any time that you could have with kids 'waiting for them to get older'? My first L almost had me convinced to take a deal on custody because it was better then what the guy usually gets here but it wasn't what I wanted, thankfully a friend convinced me to fight for what I felt was right. One of the scariest decisions I ever had to make in my life but I turned the deal down and got ready to fight for my kids. I ended up getting new L and now have kids over 50% of the time due to her work schedule. Don't be afraid to fight for what's right for you and the kids. If you don't you'll regret it. Being the nice guy here will cost you, seen it happen to a lot of friends...
For the record, I'm not saying you should turn into an a$$hole or be vindictive or any of that stuff. I'm just recommending you fight for what you feel is right and concentrate on what's best for you and kids. You can do this and still be civil with W.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
