I get it about wanting to establish roots. You and i are pretty close to the same age, (although i fell over the big 40 cliff already!!) And i completely understand about you hoping she doesn't rush into anything with somebody else because i have those same feelings about my STBX.
But at this point, there seems to be nothing we can do but get on with our own lives. The unknown can be scary but it doesn't have to be.
You can achieve your goals of establishing roots and having a family, it was one of my goals as well and i was blessed with not only 1 son, but 2. If that is something you want, then you can do anything you put your mind to.
I hear you about the great recession, it seems to be one of the factors in my sitch as well. I was in a management position with my youngest son being only a couple months old when they let everyone on our office go with a measly severance package. Luckily (or unluckily) for me, i had worked my way up through our shop into management so i at least got the option to go back into the shop to work and at the time with my son being so young, i thought it was my only option. It was right about that time that W says she started becoming unhappy. Everything sort of snowballed from there.
Anyway, when the time is right for you, having roots and a family is a goal worth achieving. Check out my thread about the grand canyon. Does a cold one sound good right about now? Or a soda or lemonade perhaps?!!
Take care, i will be stopping by as much as i can.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
