Good Old England

[25yearsmlc]

as usual, the "doctor said it" is never before disclosed information not said before. So I don't believe it

OR it's based totally on what Bruce told someone who might have said "sure sure, she sounds unstable"...or his lawyer can find one. Still not relevant (or recent enough) if he's not also arguing she is unfit. It's Just mud to sling.

But this type of "Oh btw here is a NEW piece of info I never shared until five people called me on it - and NOW how do YOU see it" --is typical of BB. It's "I will hide the ball" and one upmanship.

But it's also plain deceitful. If a doctor had TREATED her and said that, we'd have known long ago. BB, you lack credibility here. Can you guess why?

Another typical habit of yours is not listening. You want a magic answer and telling you to humble himself is not working.

No Bruce I don't think you ought to get half time with your son and I DO STILL believe money is a factor. There's no way they don't consider time together "at all" and since you have so grossly misrepresented legal issues before, I suspect you are again.

You were not the one who admitted being in arrears til WE called you on it. NOPE, You just whined about how much you had to pay and left out other things, (like the fact that it was temporary, for FOUR months and that it included back payments for the times you gave her nothing...)Now do you see why you lack credibility here?

Like I said, the piecemeal information and the way you dribble it out ONLY if we call you on it, makes it very hard to help you.

Far gave you some PRACTICAL advice. Print out your WHOLE thread and let a professional advise you. Or save the money and read what I have said ten times before, with specific advice for you.

I support you getting some time with your son. It's everything you say about your wife and your sense of entitlement that is so offensive.

It's very unappealing and yes it is selfish. You neglected your wife AND YOUR SON for a long time. That's what got you here.

You only went for more time with him at first, to get to HER and we all saw thru that. It was clear to all of us. I'm not sure that still isn't the main reason you want time with him. Or to make her suffer for hurting you...

You have barely expressed much about him except you "had fun" and then you say things about not knowing what to get a child his age and or what to do with him b/c you are bored.
YOU said that BB, and I did not forget. Go read your posts again and pick out the parts where you discuss time with him. ALL the posts, not just the nice ones...read what WE read.

You're not the first person to say those things but don't pretend you did not say them. We don't have amnesia.

Have you arranged a play date or met any of his pre-school class mates parents, if he's in a pre-school? Oh and they cost money so you don't blast your w if she goes to work or school and enrolls him in daycare so she doesn't have to put all the child care on her parents, whom you also vent a bit too much about.

BTW, who will care for your son when you are working if you do get half time? Half time will include work days. Working from home with a 3 year old around and no nanny, is NOT productive very often...

Have you interviewed possible day care nannies at all yet? Are you at all prepared for getting him half time?


Also, you put yourself in Jesus's position or somehow compare yourself and it's very unappealing. Once again playing the victim to join her in Canada, which she did NOT ask you to do...but here's the part you AGAIN forget.

You did nothing for your wife and son that you did not FIRST demand of her. She came to YOUR country and learned French. You came here already knowing English and you had a job here.
Maybe she had a job in France and met you when she was a student so she spoke French. Great, you two are even.


You said you came to follow them but you said in your earlier posts she told you NOT To...and she did not want a cent from you. Nor did she have a place for you to stay, which she told you but somehow you EXPECTED her to do what she told you she would not do. That's your sense of entitlement coming up again. As if no one could do something to YOU that you think is unfair and as if your previous behavior MUST BE FORGIVEN.

That "I deserve a second chance" is arrogance. You got more than one chance when she lived with you. But you seem to again, forget whatever does not fit your present story...your narrative wherein you made "small minor mistakes" and she is outrageously unfair and UNSTABLE to deny you anything and the courts are all stacked against you and we're all stacked against you are again in VICTIMHOOD mode.

But you wanted her back and when you eventually got around to coming over here (your story has changed so many times It gets hard to recall BUT I DO recall it. you wanted to take a SUMMER off at the beach before them and I bet that really impressed her. But it also makes no sense since she did NOT want you to join her at all.)

Your shock that she was not happy for you is amazingly clueless.

That's what I MEAN when I say you are not aware of how you sound.

THEN you changed the summer at the beach story to "a few days" and it still makes no sense.

She wasn't happy for you to go to the beach? She left you.

She was in Canada trying to be a single mom with her family probably telling her they "told her so" about you.

She must have eaten a lot of crow (that means she had to be even more humbled by their opionion of you being validated.

I have not known anyone to marry someone their parents disliked AND stay married. True, the parents can be bigots or just be wrong, but usually if they are normal decent parents, they have objective reasons for not wanting their child to marry a specific person.

Your wife married you anyhow, and you made no effort to reach out to them. You were fine with them not attending the wedding but it must have killed her, and you were fine with them not liking you...until you needed them. Now you are outraged they don't seem fond of you. That's not self aware of you BB.

Anyhow, I have to go.

Good luck