"I just noticed my wife unfriended me on Facebook. Should I ask her why?"
No. She's doing it because she doesn't want you in her life and doesn't want you to follow her antics. Unfortunately that's her reality that she's decided to build. It has nothing to do with things that you have done. And it is a high school mentality.
"I dont know what more I can do to be nicer to her!"
You don't need to be. In fact, maybe you've been too nice.
"I have been more than accommodating to her throughout this whole ordeal."
Don't go overboard and take care of her.
"Why is she so full of hate considering all the positive changes I made?"
Her anger has nothing to do with your efforts. She's trying to justify her leaving you to herself. Therefore you must be the enemy so she can project her unfulfilled needs and insecurities onto you rather than face them herself.
"It is making co parenting so much more challenging. Wonder if she is trying to push me away from the children?"
No. If you look through everyone's sitches, their spouses are all like that. They make the LBS look like the devil so they don't have to take on any personal responsibility.
That being said, you said your W suffers from depression and you reacted by drinking and smoking pot which in my eyes was high school mentality as well.
The best thing you can do is to get out of her way. Anything you tell her will be taken with hostility. Get out of the way so she doesn't see you as an easy target. Continue to grow and get better.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
