Again with the MLC label? Um, WASs also say they have been miserable for years. And they usually want the kids too, like your wife.
Your wife clearly has a mood disorder. Weirdly you seem to respond to it. When she's nice to you, you immediately accept it and pretend she didn't just tell you to get out of the house. I think if you left the house, THEN would you call her a WAW? B/C she has repeatedly asked you to leave and said she is mierable and for the most part, she acts that way.
I don't see her being "wishy washy" or indecisive. I see strategy.
Anyhow, in your case I feel I can guarantee further research on MLC will NOT HELP YOU...
it may well be a stalling tactic to keep you from DOING anything new or different.
Telling her a comment and then walking out of the room still seems fear based to me, but maybe it's an advance for you.
Maybe you are okay with things as they are? She talks to you in bed say every other week, and you see your kids everyday...
is that enough? I just get the feeling Harrier may have a point. Either you are not ready for any movement on YOUR end, or you are.
How long do you feel the first step will take you? I have to say when I went thru the 12 steps that one, was not a hard one. It was obvious my life was not manageable. So, is it possible in your particular group to work on the next step too? Turn it over man, please.
I see so much spinning of wheels and then you retreat to the MLC label so you 'can understand what your w is going thru"...
She treats you bad most of the time. She's old enough to have gotten past her childhood crap, for God's sake. Very few of us grew up in the Brady Bunch (and they had dead biological parents too, btw)
She says she wants out and is miserable and usually she acts like she is. She has asked you to leave again. She texts OMs all she wants and comes and goes as she pleases and she lets OM visit when you are not around.
But b/c you began to GAL and told her SHE could leave, she was nice to you for an evening. If anything IS working, it's that...
don't pretend she got distant BECAUSE you GAL. That's an excuse for you to stay stuck some more.
If you want your life to be as it is now, including your m, then say so.
No one here is going to tell you that you are a doormat who ought to file for divorce. But tell us if this is enough for you.
I get mixed signals from YOU, not her.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
