You can see the stars, but still not see the light

[reachingHigher]

Like three days? Leave a week from today?

[RosaLinda]

"I can always tell when something is brewing by the amount of texting.

H springs on me today that he has plans tonight, tomorrow night, Thursday and Friday. How nice."

Hmmmm.... Poor Frumpy is feeling her star quarter back's eyes drifting back to the prom queen, where they belong. P!sses her off royally we see! I know that angry texting thing well. Fun family time is a BIG threat!

"She is pulling the rope because she is feeling him pulling the other way. And she is definitely not liking him going on a family trip."

Frumpy is pure evil. Nasty woman. T, I'm not real big on the middle finger. Can I join in the bat brigade instead? I've learned yelling F F F burns a LOT of tension, and I betcha swinging a bat at the same time would quadruple the effect! I'm not real good at it though. You wouldn't mind if I got in a couple of practice whacks on FT before moving in on your H, would you?

[uRworthy]

They dont scare me none, T. I can always stand on a chair. It wouldnt be the first time. LOL!

Ah, T, I know this is getting so old and played out already.

Unfortunately, it has to go the distance so that there is no second guessing or looking back at all and he can truly move forward.

The only way to do this is through it.

So, you know what you have to do on this vacation, right?

Look good (I know you always do), be amazing you, and act like you dont have a freakin care in the world.

[Takevowsserious]

I think instead of individual memoirs, maybe we should all contribute to a "Best MLC Stories" book. Then again, it would end up being thousands of pages long! Lol!

So....

I had to run to the post office, and when I get home H asks me for a favor. I notice he has changed his shirt.

He proceeds to ask me if I will sniff him. Yes, you read that correctly folks - sniff him. He had me sniff all over his shirt and sniff his hair.

Now I don't know if anyone out there has sniffed a person lately, but you're pretty up close and personal when you do.

Long story, but he got deer repellent on his shirt and wanted to know if he smelled. Why he didn't hop in the shower is beyond me.

Left pretty soon after I got back, guess he was on a tight schedule lol!

You really can't make this stuff up.

rH, we leave the 16th, come back the 18th. I am really looking forward to the trip. I'm glad I scratched a beach vacation idea - if he was comparing, going to the beach with kids is much different than going with your girlfriend. I know the boys are going to love the activities I have planned. And H seems excited about some of the restaurants there! And me... I will be happy just to be making a memory with my family

Linda, bring your bat, don't be shy!

It's funny, things have been so busy around here that the vacation just kinda snuck up. It's only three days, but that's three days she has limited to no access to him (only through texting).

I started to think tonight too... If I was no threat, if the thought of him having feelings for me was so ridiculous, then she shouldn't care that he goes. I mean, he will only have a terrible time with the wife, right???? Wrong!!!!

FT is very nasty, selfish and spiteful. I say she can be a big ol' OW piñata, so take as many practice swings as you want!

UW, stand on a chair baby!!!! Get to it!!!

So now that the gauntlet has been thrown down to be my fabulous self on vacation, I officially accept the challenge!

Because truly, I know that the boys and I will have fun no matter what. When I originally planned on going on vacation, I planned on it being just me and the boys. I really did not see H going. But he is

I'm gonna let FT pull that rope harder and harder. Should be getting pretty frayed after a year and a half. Hope it snaps soon

[uRworthy]

Hey T, I swear your h is a piece of work. Smell this - LOL!

I might have to be helped onto and off the chair, but, as I said, I dont let my issues stop me from much.

I know you love a good challenge, girl. Do it up!

She keeps pulling, its gonna snap and she is going to go flyin.:).

You got this.

[Raine]

I totally laughed at the sniffing thing. Like my H asking me to smell his breath. And maybe none of this would have been weird a few years ago. But now it is. Now it's weird he walks around in his underwear and has me do a breath check. I hope you have a super fun trip!

[reachingHigher]

What are the sleeping arrangements for the vacation? That was a big issue for my H and me during last Thanksgiving.

Have you talked about it? .

Sniffing thing was funny. MLCers don't see themselves at all as others see them. I keep trying to explain that to my dad as we have our big family reunion in September. H said last night he wouldn't blame my dad for giving him a 2X4 b/c he deserves it, but H is going anyway He's a brave man!

But I keep telling my dad that the things that we saw while my H was out of the house or in replay, aren't the way H sees them. He was just confused and in MLC.

So...the sniffing thing for your H...hilarious to us...makes perfect sense in his brain no doubt.

But nice for you to get close to him...sorta...unless you passed out from the smell of deer repellant!! Lol!

[Takevowsserious]

Hello DBers!

Yes UW, my H is a piece of work all right! I can usually read him pretty well, and I think he enjoyed me sniffing him all over and being that close to him. Go figure!

I will gladly help you on and off that chair lol!

She's pulling - she's BEEN pulling, I've sensed it for awhile now - and in my mind (whether this is true or not) I like to think that's actually helping me. Guess time will tell for that one. If she goes flying - look out lol!!!

Thanks for the vote of confidence

I don't know Raine, would you walk around in your undies and have your breath smelled by just anyone? Exactly!!! Will they even remember stuff like this?

Hi rH ~ we have not discussed the sleeping arrangements. I felt like bringing it up would draw attention to the fact that I was thinking about it, and that would equal pressure. There are two double beds in the room. If I had to guess, I think H will suggest we each sleep with a kid. Which is actually fine with me, that's what I am preparing for, what I am expecting. I don't want him to feel uncomfortable in any way.

Your H is brave for going to the reunion, but I think that speaks volumes if he is willing to face your family knowing that they know he has hurt you

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H came home around 11:30 last night. Did not bother to come upstairs to change. One of the tell tale signs he's seen her.

He was all super nice to me this morning (guilt) and kept staring at me with a big smile (more guilt - I think). Then later on, he decides he is going to clean the vacuum and then vaccum really well all downstairs. (Even more guilt!) I did thank him for doing this, said it was helpful and made the house look much better.

He told me that he really liked our new quilt I bought last night. My internal question was - are you ever going to sleep in bed and use it?

I believe tonight is a legit night out - I saw the guy's W at yoga, and she said he was looking forward to meeting up with H. But I think tomorrow is when he is seeing her again.

Just doing my thing, took boys to library and also went to yoga this evening. Also - H looked up some breakfast places around where we are staying. Said he can't wait to get some good seafood.

I'm going with the flow around here!

Good night

[uRworthy]

I think he enjoyed me sniffing him all over and being that close to him. Go figure!

I am not surprised he liked it, T. Not at all.

She's pulling - she's BEEN pulling, I've sensed it for awhile now - and in my mind (whether this is true or not) I like to think that's actually helping me. Guess time will tell for that one.

I get that feeling, too, T. Really feeling it from here.

Thanks for the vote of confidence

You know you always have that, my friend.

Will they even remember stuff like this?

Um, not likely, believe it or not!

There are two double beds in the room. If I had to guess, I think H will suggest we each sleep with a kid. Which is actually fine with me, that's what I am preparing for, what I am expecting. I don't want him to feel uncomfortable in any way.

Good for you.

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He was all super nice to me this morning (guilt) and kept staring at me with a big smile (more guilt - I think). Then later on, he decides he is going to clean the vacuum and then vaccum really well all downstairs. (Even more guilt!) I did thank him for doing this, said it was helpful and made the house look much better.

Probably guilt, but, you dont really know for sure he was with her, right? And hey, you got the house vaccummed, always a plus.


Just doing my thing, took boys to library and also went to yoga this evening. Also - H looked up some breakfast places around where we are staying. Said he can't wait to get some good seafood.

You are doing wonderfully, T. And I think it's great he looked up places to eat.

I'm going with the flow around here!

Attagirl! So proud of you.

[RosaLinda]

I agree that FT pulling pulling pulling on your H is a GOOD thing, TVS, one of these days that leash will break and she'll fall flat on her fat a$$. Shaking her head and wondering what happened! Dawn Marie posted a link to a very interesting website on her thread, a blog written by a man who had a PA during his MLC, and came out of it very suddenly while driving to his OW's house. He said he just woke up and said "WTF am a I doing?" to himself, and returned to his W. It seemed sort of rocky for a while after that, but they made it thru. He wrote that his wife has a lot of questions about his actions, but he honestly cannot remember a lot of what he did and said. Wonka has said the same thing. So....your H probably will not either.

Here's to hoping these leashes were all made of shoddy materials in China

I'm glad tonight is a genuine night out with H's friend. What are you and the boys doing today? It's raining here, no beach or sitting outside reading. So I"m stuck catching up on my work. Okay, catching up on all my friends' threads, then work. A girl's got to have her priorities straight