Someone said on my thread that you can have hope as long as you want and you give up hope when want. You do it on your terms. My D is final in two days, yet i will still have hope that down the line we can reconcile. I will hold onto those feelings until i decide to let go of them.
The key is to completely let her go. I am trying to learn how to accept my D completely, but you have to let her figure things out on her own without any input from you. It's tough to let go, but it will help you in the long run.
Like i have been told, this didn't happen overnight, and it will take her months, maybe years for the fog to lift.
Only give up hope when you want to.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
