You're only in a catch 22 because you put yourself there.

I don't know what state you're in but does she really need you to "give" her a D?

What kind of R do you think people have when they are forced to stay together? Is that what you want? Do you think that's good for your children?

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Is it because she will think I'm not listening again? Yes or because I'am listening, but I'm ignoring her needs? Yes


Really listening is getting to what the other person needs, even if you disagree.

Your W needs to be away from you. Do you love her enough to make that happen while working to preserve the R with your children?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss