You should stand by the new Val. Being selfish is something I needed to learn as well and it was an important lesson in my journey.
What helped you to learn to be selfish (in a constructive way)?
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
