One month down, zero casualties

[RosaLinda]

 "I get along really well with them. They adore me. They are very upset with H to the point they wouldn't talk to him. His dad is softening though and beginning to see the depression. Before he felt like H didn't have anything to be depressed about and was being a selfish blank. They don't know how I have has the patience and have stood by H. His mom said she would have left him."

That's great that they are so supportive of you Raine. And it's good that your FIL is finally understanding that someone doesn't need to have "anything to be depressed about" to be depressed, and that depression doesn't make him a "selfish blank" -- or maybe it does. 

I don't know how you will feel about this, but would you consider explaining something about MLC to your inlaws since they already know that you two separated for 7 months? My MIL was furious that my H left me to go away with RT a few months ago, and was equally furious that he plans to go see her in Moscow. She kept telling me to kick him out. So I told her a bit about MLC and now she is a big supporter of my DBing efforts. 

You handled those conversations where your H opened up to you SO WELL! Very T^2 like of you! Made him feel comfortable sharing, and did not push. Poor guy, to have had these periods of fog for 10 years! I wonder if that's commom. Great job Raine!

How has your W described her feelings of depression T? My H describes it as feeling empty and dead inside, with no interest in anything.