So W came over this evening to color D's hair. Had the wrong color, stayed to chat. We eventually got to talking about bills, and she asked me if I had my appointment yet with the lawyer. I told her that it was last week and that I also had to drop off some forms related to my pension disbursement. She didn't press or say anything like she has in the past such as "I'm not changing my mind," or "I want to move on," but I gently reminded her that I'm not ready to sign anything. She didn't say anything in response.
This raises a few questions. Since we are already in the divorce process, how can I slow it down without her getting defensive and getting more resolved to end things? Overall things seem positive, but does anyone have a similar sitch or experience?
I don't want to mind read or over analyze, but should I be looking for behavioral cues other than her simply not bringing up the lawyer as often?
M:46 W:46 M:25;T:29 S:25; D:17 BD:12/22/12 D process begun:1/21/13 W moves out:3/1/2013
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