Sorry you're having a bad day. I know this hurts so much.
Here's the thing with affairs/OP/infidelity during MLC - I know you said it's a deal breaker for you, but think of it this way...
I remember someone on here asking me if I really believed my H was in crisis. I said yes. Then this very wise person told me that while that person does not get a free pass, that it does explain why they are doing something so hurtful.
For me, so many things about my H were/are different. He is not the man i married. The affair is just one more thing.
So I will ask you the same thing... Do you think your w is in crisis? Do you believe she's not herself? Do you believe the real her is in there somewhere?
Now I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive my H (though I think I can). I really don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him. I don't know if we will be able to renew our M.
But I do know that when the time comes, I am willing to try.
This is still so early on for you, and I remember how raw the pain is. Don't consider yourself weak for needing to move out. You have to do what you think is best.
We're here to support you no matter what Thumpered. Maybe living apart will give you both some much needed space. Leave her to her teenage mentality of song lists and old boyfriends.
What new and interesting things are going on in your life?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
