How brave of you to question your thoughts of leaving and post on a board filled with marriage-saving diehards...One thing is for sure, you're right about the fact that divorce wouldn't necessarily make your life easier. It's hard to feel lonely in a marriage, I agree. So do something to change that. You can do it the DB way. Michele!
I found this thread that was very interesting and the W speaks more in the way I do, she's reaches a point of considering being done. I like Michelle's message to her, and I do agree about D having it's own set of problems, I do tinker w the idea tho, and I do see how change can be make right here and now on my part.
What did I read...leave for change or change before leaving, I'm sorry I forgot where I read this, but it is very smart!
Still stuck on the how, for myself! I wish I could afford a coach, my C is dull, I need an aggressive approach for myself.
I'm not in L w my H as most of you describe, I think it's the dep that has caused the biggest wedge between us, yes, even more than EA - she's just a stupid looser he talks to - the dep is the big killer in this R.
It's what tells him he's not worthy or happy so why should he try to be in a R w me. So my efforts are futile!
I keep remembering it's not me...I hear it...I believe him...somehow it's not easier.
if I'm home w him I feel contempt or hate, or even see him as an idiot. If I'm out all day when I return I see his as sad, lonely, broken. If he's gone all day I feel free, wishing he never return, more able to enjoy my home and family
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
