Believe nothing of what I hear? I have hearing about this many times for 4 years but W did say if I had treated her better all this probably will not have come to this stage. Right again.
I don't know that you have applied that in the right timing or context. What I mean is that a LBH shouldn't believe all the craziness she says after she has dropped the bomb and you officially have a WAW. But four years ago when she was trying to tell you the problems she was having with your family.....that was the time to listen and believe what she was saying.
I can tell you from my own personal experience that when a H does not put his W first, above his mother and everyone else, he will eventually lose his W's respect. If a man doesn't set things straight with his family to let them know he stands by his W regardless of how they feel about it.....ithen it feels like a betrayal to her.
Yes, I had an EA and my H felt very betrayed. So did I feel like I had been betrayed all those decades he would sit and say nothing as his family run me in the ground. What goes around....comes around.
I don't agree with you letting the OM hang around your house....especially after both of them admitted they had feelings for each other. A woman won't respect a H who would just let another man come into his home and have his W and kids while he does nothing . And if she doesn't respect you.....she can't love like a woman needs to love her man. At least have enough respect for yourself to not hand your home and family over to a third person.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
