NERO here- don't let me float away anybody

[RosaLinda]

Oh I would LOVE to meet up! I wonder who else is around the tri-state area? Where does TVS live?

[RosaLinda]

Did you find the teeth and free the bird?

[albamarie]

I'm in IL, Nero has a scone w my name on it already!

IF YOU GOT HALF YOUR WISHES , YOU'D DOUBLE YOUR TROUBLE"

I like this saying alot, but not me, I would be free and happy!

i seem to be. maybe you too? maybe it's soooo hard for us to change because we're soooo used to being in charge

no, for me it's the rejection. I don't handle that well at all, especially when it's for nothing really. Oh, and yes please give ''my'' attention to OP while your at it, that's the killer!

we need to be out there hopping round doing what we like, being who we like, having what we like-

yea, ok I like to be in the mix, I was center of his attention for many yrs and I never thought to expect this!

I went from super mom and wife to no-H and grown kids at the same time, empty nest, I have an empty bed, empty heart and an h with an empty head!

I hope your mom is ok, I know your frustrate w that but you gotta do it, right!

Nero, it is humid and I am not a happy camper stuck in this air conditing, but I am thankful for it, hope your night is good!

[RosaLinda]

Nero: "i seem to be. maybe you too? maybe it's soooo hard for us to change because we're soooo used to being in charge"

Dawn Marie: "no, for me it's the rejection. I don't handle that well at all, especially when it's for nothing really. Oh, and yes please give ''my'' attention to OP while your at it, that's the killer!
I went from super mom and wife to no-H and grown kids at the same time, empty nest, I have an empty bed, empty heart and an h with an empty head!"

Me too. I hate the rejection. Stellar lack of love, affection, attention. Except when it suits them. Yet he's perfectly capable of giving love, affection, and attention to that little tramp

Did the teeth show up? Glasses? Bird?

[nero]

dawn & linda -

whatever the heck i was saying - let me say ME TOO about the fall from grace, being last on the list of desired companions after sooo long as first. I HATE BEING REJECTED TOO. IT'S SO f'ing shabby ... we all deserve soooo much MORE - LIKE everything

so rejection is a killer - me too. i absolutely hate it- and i hate "what was mine" being slathered around to that stupid cow and whoever else.

i can't imagine him saying to her what he has to me - probably does all the time-

GOD i could throw up thinking about it- so i am not. one thing i've thought tho- which may or may not be true.

my h has ALWAYS had a very hard time with spoken expressions of caring & love. i've wondered if he can slather it around so much in e-mails because it means nothing there ( two ow concurrently - love ? really) - perhaps it's "junk" that gets him what he wants. alot of returned adoration or something like that.

it is, of course, exactly what someone in my shoes WOULD say to self about this ow junk & professions of love. you have to wonder tho-

i'm sick of thinking about him and talking about him from girlfriend chat other day. why in the wo4rld do i answer questions and explain and feel compelled to? idk- she would not pursue it if i said "i really don't even want to discuss this now". i need to stay off it to "the world" out there.

it's going to be the same old thing of anyone i ever talked to about it is obliged to hate him now - FOREVER AND EVER AMEN.

OH WELL- it is inconvenient- but needed those "group therapy " sessions - they'll ahve to just swallow it somehow and make do in life.

which ever way it goes - i still do not like someone else badmouthing him to me - sad girl , sad sad girl

hey - can i be "sap of the month" for July???? do i get a prize?

NEVER FOUND TEETH, BIRD escaped (thank goodness) new teeth appt tomorrow- will shoot day doing this crap - then enxt probably too.

h comes here tuesday- just in time to queer the deal of longer at shore with VA neice & baby coming up & fam.... he sure turns up inconveniently - always manages to get between me and whatever plans i make. ( he doesn't know- has a 6th sense that jacks up my plans i think)

took neice out to wendys (her fav.) had a nice little visit- she even offered to go visit mom w/ me and chat with her so i could look without constant heckling- whatta gal. other than h when he's here- not a person in world offers that

so that was v nice. h in fl just texted he took his aunt (no family at all for her) to hospital with pneumonia. 89 yrs old- smoked for last 60+ yrs!! don't know how that will turn out. poor old thing.

so lots of action as usual here. I HAVE A BIG POSITIVE ONE LITTLE THING THO TO SHARE - chatted today with visiting cargiver gal (from service my tighta$$ sister found - $26/hr but mom doesn't need nurse/specialty care- just companion- lt housekeeping, etc.) anyway- nice little gal, student, i was telling her about going to fla and possibly needing someone for more visits - she volunteered that she wouldn't mind working "on the side" rather than thru agency for $12 an hr. she's just contract labor- they farm it out and pay her that- so woo hoo. i'll take big look at her own vac.plans & mom's needs and maybe it will defray some of the worry & need for someone.

it's small- but positive and making me glad at moment.

xxo going to FL - idk how to put it- but i do not think it's in my best interests to jump in and too willingly martyr myself for my mom. i don't even think she'd like to think i did- on a clear day- and i'd just really realy resent her- rather than now, where i just really resent her.

so somehow get the teeth (thur - fri) go to shore sat-mon? get h tue? something like that. and what - clean & organinze entire house & universe in next hour. sounds like a plan...

where is that wine bottle again...

nice christian aren't I - huh? oh well, just doin my best. xxoo

[nero]

oh guys - i forgot to say i think

mwd book about change your life & everyone in it is worth a look - at any time in life. I liked some tings she said alot- like don't go acting on your feelins in a flash - they do change.

and also- wht the heck was it now? oh yeah - i think in her divorce buster book - linda you may be thinking that (and i think it too) she says something like in her long experience - 35 yrs or something - she reckons about 75% of mlc people do not end the marriage and manage to return to normalcy.

idk exact wording- and could be wrong- but i thought i read it and I was impressed to think there was a bettr than 50-50 chance.

just my recollection.

[uRworthy]

Nero, I love reading your posts. You crack me up.

I'll be at the shore at some point, too. Wouldnt it be funny if we were laying out next to each other?

The rejection thing. Yea, it hurts. But then I think about how fabulous I am and how crazy and broken he is.

I mean my xh is still alone. OW long gone, not another one as far as I know. He is still unhappy. Has told me he doesnt think he will ever be happy.

So, I am thinking that I am really better off in a lot of ways not being around that.

Makes the rejection part much easier to swallow, ya know?

[makingmagic]

I HATE the rejection thing too!!! How is everyone managing? My nose gets out of joint and I look at him and wonder, how the "flink" can YOU reject ME? are you serious? If you could see him vs. me, y'all would wonder what I see!

Then I feel really rejected because I know its not about looks, but whats inside. I have given this man everything and he rejects me? I don't understand!! What more could he be wanting? ((((TOSSING MY HANDS IN THE AIR)))...venting!!

[albamarie]

How is everyone managing? My nose gets out of joint and I look at him and wonder, how the "flink" can YOU reject ME? are you serious? If you could see him vs. me, y'all would wonder what I see!

Then I feel really rejected because I know its not about looks, but whats inside. I have given this man everything and he rejects me?

Try to maybe look at it like this. He is rejecting everything that is good in his life, your the best thing so you get rejected the most, you feel it the most because L'ing you is one of the only real jobs he had and he screwed it up!

I think all those here know that we are the prize! Believe me mine didn't go w the new car, hair cut, new clothes look, he's a hot mess, and 7yrs older than I. That's why the OP our losers themselves, a reflection of what H feels inside.

How do I manage, well it's been a long time coming but I know it's him, I just excepted it and now I am no longer starving, and doing dumb sh!t to change. The changes I make now are for me....let him look on!!!

[job]

nero,
I'm sorry you weren't able to locate the teeth. I bet when she gets her new pair, she'll find the old ones. It never ceases to amaze me that when you are looking really hard for something you can't find it, but when forget about it or purchase a second item, low and behold...it will show up.

Glad to hear that the bird flew the coop. You didn't need Tweety flying all around in the house making a mess.

How's your "organizing coming?