If at all possible, split the phone bill. When the W took it on herself to pay for her own phone, that ended the snooping for me and helped me let go of obsessing over how much she texted a certain friend.

I would wager that LOTS of EAs are fueled by texting. It's a little secret relationship, right in their pocket!

My $.02
RRD

M:46
W:46
M:25;T:29
S:25; D:17
BD:12/22/12
D process begun:1/21/13
W moves out:3/1/2013

Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough- Alain De Botton