"I have come to the realization that I cannot stop this from happening."
Yes you could have. What you have to understand is that you cannot stop YOUR W from wanting this.
"I think and hope that my STBXW will take the high road also, though that remains to be seen."
There you go again. Your W has been totally honest with you from the get go. Stop thinking that she's been out to screw you over. That's just your pride taking a hit talking.
"Yes Bond, you were right! I don't know whether the outcome would have been different if i was better at DBing"
Yes it would have and still can be.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.