"Why don't you think that Bond? Chronic mood swings. Getting a tattoo next week. Stating she never loved me ever. Blames me for all her unhappiness. All of it. From what I read and just from this forum:
WAS: leaves, divorces, never looks back MLC: wishy washy, in out, threatens D never takes action.
I'm not disagreeing with you but want to understand what my W is going through."
Read the Conway book. There are several triggers that set off a MLC and your W didn't go through any of them with the exception of maybe age. You have to understand that midlife is a "transitional" period that everyone goes through. It's a life change not a disease or illness that can be cured. It's an awareness of how and what you want your life to be like.
"I think she has a mood disorder if not MLC."
I've always thought so.
"Bond what would your advice be on my W stating "we are separated from this point on"
You should have told her..."oh now we are separated? I thought we were when you started acting up again."
"she said this after I would not move out again."
Like I told you before, you need to think of her like a spoiled child. She is stomping her feet and demanding things from you and making threats because you're not giving her what SHE wants. Well you don't need to give her what she wants.
Seriously, the only thing you haven't done is actually stand up for yourself. If she had said that to me, I would have calmly gotten her bags out, packed up her stuff, put them in the car and ask her where she would like to go since SHE is unhappy and you pay for the mortgage so you won't be moving out.
"I mean seriously. Who thinks they can turn a marriage on and off. She is back to ground zero fyi. I was hoping to prevent it by giving space and GAL but honestly as I did more things and acted as if she got more and more distant."
Her acting distant was HER choice. Don't place blame on your actions.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
