Thanks for your response in my thread. I'm sorry you've found yourself here. It's such a difficult time. I wish I had words of advice, just know I'm thinking of you and hoping things turn around.
My H was also texting someone else in the beginning of this. He swears nothing physical ever happened and I have no proof otherwise. I haven't mentioned it since May and neither has he. I'm really surprised I've been able to let it go so easily...but I've told myself if there is someone else it's just a symptom, not the problem. And if we can't figure out what the problem is we have no hope anyway. The truth will come out eventually. I actually really regret making such a big deal out of it during the 5 days he moved home. I think that pressure to end all contact with her immediately was the main reason he moved out again and filed so quickly. If I had kept my mouth shut and practiced DB techniques (that I knew nothing about yet!) it may have died on its own (and I suspect already has, but with him out of the house and a D hanging over our heads).
