Just catching up on your sitch, AS. Wow!!! a whole lot on your table right now. You seem to be handling it so well. I can't imagine how difficult that must be for her, and for you as well. I recently got some news about my W having some medical issues as well. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
I am sorry (and happy) that you are starting to feel at peace with your marriage. I am slowly getting there myself, but still have a rough road ahead. I get some of those same feelings you have in regards to being almost numb when the thought of your wife with OM comes into the equation. I just found out recently that my W is in a full blown realtionship. It makes me sad, but the anger isn't really there anymore. It feels so surreal, but I am starting to accept that our marriage is not going to be salvagable. I never thought in a million years that I would want to be friends with my wife, after OM was in the picture. But like you, I am starting to see that my love and concern for her is unconditional. I really care for my W, in much the same way you you do for yours. Actually, our sitches have a TON of similarities. the list is long. You are an inspiration to me, AS. I have a wealth of admiration for you. Stay strong and keep up the good work!
