Maybe it would be possible to see a mediator so that her concerns about money are taken care of, but with the condition that we don't get D after the mediation.

that we are breaking up because I won't do the work. This makes me furious. I have spent over ten years doing the work.

She's done. The best thing you can do is let her go. I wouldn't even contact her now other than to say, "contact me about he mediation details".

You are in a place where every time she has contact with you she's reminded of why she doesn't want to be with you.

Leave her be. Stop trying to control.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss