Am I ready for this?

[Mtnman]

Thanks rH! I can see that my w still connects with me on some level, but, like you said, I'm a father figure to her. My pastor asked me yesterday what I thought w was missing in our relationship and looking for. I told him she was looking for an escape. It wasn't about what I did or didn't give her, she wanted to be free. Similar to your thought on how your h had to fix the plumbing yesterday. It's part of having a family. Raising a family isn't "fun" most of the time. It's work, responsibility, sacrifice.

Just yesterday I was mowing grass after work. S6 comes crying around the corner because S9 was being mean to him. I had to stop, discipline both, get the compressor out, restaple the bottom of the bifold door they broke, hang it, then go back to mowing. I hadn't even thought about it since, til I read about your h's evening. It's just what you do.

Her relationship with her dad was special. He was the nurturing parent, always taking her to stay all night at a friends, going to her activities, etc. He never disciplined her. She was his little girl. Keep in mind, he had an alcohol problem during her teen years and her mother coped by drinking and escaping during that time. I'm not sure what it all means? She has said she's out looking for her father.

Continue to use your situation when you help. It gives evidence to what your saying. It provides me with proof.