You should stand by the new Val. Being selfish is something I needed to learn as well and it was an important lesson in my journey.
My one piece of feedback is, do you need to break it all down for your ex or can you simply say I cant do this right now. Does it help share all your feelings with her or can you share your feelings here with us, in church and with friends and not "over whelm" her with your feelings
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
