Right now she is draining you. I struggled so much with not having control of the situation. My ex had cheated when we first got married, it was easy for him as I was a flight attendant and gone so much. He promised he would never hurt me again.
I knew he had hurt me again but couldn't believe he would hurt his kids like this. I was wrong. Perhaps if I had taken the bull by the horns, but all I could think about was keeping us all together. I think it took me longer to heal because of it but I did want to know that I had tried, really tried to keep us together. When it was done...the moment he said he couldn't see us together in court, I let it go.
Find some control for yourself, it will bode well for you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory