My L objected and said there was no cause, but then the judge asked something about sending the TRO to trial or something along those lines, and my L demurred. I got the sense he didn't want to go there and I didn't have a chance to ask him about it after the trial.
The way the laws are in my state, a TRO can be granted with virtually no cause. I'm just grateful it is not a permanent one. I told my L that avoiding a permanent one was of utmost priority because it would render me unemployable.
Does anyone out there have any tips for keeping a PMA besides keeping busy?
sandi2, if you're reading this, can you give me any advice on my sitch from a WAW perspective? Is there any chance that this much hate and refusal to communicate will ever subside?
Somebody please tell me that there is still hope that my W and I can reconcile down the line. I know that this D will happen, but I need to have some hope.
Someone said on my thread that you can have hope as long as you want and you give up hope when want. You do it on your terms. My D is final in two days, yet i will still have hope that down the line we can reconcile. I will hold onto those feelings until i decide to let go of them.
The key is to completely let her go. I am trying to learn how to accept my D completely, but you have to let her figure things out on her own without any input from you. It's tough to let go, but it will help you in the long run.
Like i have been told, this didn't happen overnight, and it will take her months, maybe years for the fog to lift.
Only give up hope when you want to.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
