I am sorry that you find yourself here but, you are in good company. All of our situations are different but they all have some similarities.
My wife resents me for financial reasons and a myriad of other things. She also shows very few signs of wanting to work on our M. I think if money were not a problem, that she may have moved out by now. I am mind reading of course.
Go out and buy the book Divorce Remedy and read Sandi's37 Rules in the newcomers section. Sandi's 37 Rules will explain what you can do firstly to help yourself get through the emotions you are possibly overwhelmed by or at least how to react to your S. Read as much as you can on this forum and see what might apply to you.
You need to start doing some serious GAL activities and stay busy with friends and relatives. Eat, sleep (or rest if you cant sleep) and exercise. Start right now working on yourself and what you can control. REMEMBER, you cant control her, only yourself.
I am sorry again for your situation. My prayers include everyone on this sight, you as well. You will here the word patience a lot on this sight. Learn it and Live it, it will help you get through.
Also, dont get down when she blames you for everything. That is script right our of the WAS handbook. Dont believe it. It takes two to make a marriage crisis. You didnt cause your wife to leave. She chose to leave. This is not your fault but it is your problem now. How you deal with it and how you deal with her can help you situation or it can hinder it. Take care of yourself and become a better person. One she would want to come back to. She fell in love with you once so if you want her back, become a better version of who you were when you met her.
You will have no control over how she will react but trust me, she will react. Her reactions will probably be negative for quite some time so start moving forward with yourself and what you can control. Reacting to her negativity in a positive way with a PMA will help you win her back. There are no guaranty that she will come back. Start working becoming a man she would want to come back to.
Good luck and continue posting and updating here. Vent your anger and frustrations here not to her.
There are a lot of wonderful people here on this site that will help you deal with your situation. You are not alone in this. We are all in this process together.
