My sister has told me that while we were on vacation together (without my W), my oldest daughter of 12 years complained to her that we neglect her, that we don't spend time with her, etc. Not directly like that, but essentially she said we both spend a lot of time outside of the house, and when we are home we are not really there for them.
Unfortunately, there is a lot of truth in this.
My question is whether it makes sense to discuss this with my W. When my sister first told me, I was still on vacation and emailed my W this. Included in my email was a suggestion that we eat together "as a family" at least once a week. My W agreed to this, but essentially ignored the crux of the message that our D feels ignored.
I'm think that I cannot control my W's relationship with our children, and that bring this up is a form of pressure or control that will drive her away. Also, I don't think it will change her behavior anyway.
