Who's ex doesn't like punish and hold grudges? I suspect if they didn't do that, we would have this conversation in the WAS forums, right
More to the point, I have been where you are. I had no reason to think that courage was needed. Just the acknowledgement that it was over (for the one who left at the very least, right?), it was important to my ex that it was over, and that no matter what I said, it wasn't going to change those things. Changes had to come from elsewhere.
I can tell you my ex doesn't want to talk to me, as much as talk at me and tell me how happy she is without me. But that's 2 years after the divorce is final and 6 since BD.
It takes two to have a conversation. It only takes one to initiate it. You can be that one. Whether he responds or not, you can do the things you need to do.
It's ok to have that conversation and to be the one to take a stand even if he does not reciprocate. Somebody has to, right? Nobody else is going to. And you really have nothing to lose and everything to gain. At worst, you spent time that didn't change anything....
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
