Saw that you're struggling with boundaries too. For some reason, I have no problem setting boundaries with the entire world, but not with XH. Maybe it's because I thought we were on the same team, with the same goals before so why would I need to set boundaries?

Anyway, I saw on one of my meetup groups over the weekend that the authors of the book Boundaries are doing a live simulcast on Saturday at churches across the country. It's being recorded in Irvine, which I don't think is that far from LA, but with traffic could be a few hours, I guess!

If you're interested you should be able to google it and see if anyplace near you has it. I'm thinking that might be one of my GAL activities this weekend.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13