Yes Wonka, those mistakes are patterns all right. And tapping on the pain or fear does a really good job of avoiding the development of anger and resentment.
Bets, I'm doing well. Thanks for checking. The holiday was, oddly, a bit rough since I didn't have plans.
I had been slowly working toward getting another date. She turned out to be unavailable (and I don' just mean for Saturday night). Now, all the distractions are cleared away. It's down to just me in my head. That's feeling pretty peaceful, actually.